Frameworks
I was thinking one day that a lot of the relationship problems I've seen throughout my life were caused by people not communicating. I got to thinking about how you could fix that and this is what I came up with. Introducing frameworks. Each framework is a list of questions or considerations that apply to the subject under evaluation. A person could treat them like relationship contracts but that's not really the intent. Rather, the idea is to get you to discuss this stuff in the proper depth so everyone is on the same page. To that end, honesty is the key. Have fun.
~CCR
Standard Relationship Framework
Background:
Failed relationships abound. You can find them everywhere you look. One of the leading causes of a failed relationship (as mentioned above) is poor communication. This here, is a communication framework designed to remedy that. It has topics and questions that should be discussed. I’ve written them in the form of an agreement. The intent is to guide a conversation but you could print it off and go through the items point by point.
Money Lending Framework
Background:
As a general rule, it’s a bad idea to lend money to family members. However, family lending can be done to great advantage if it’s handled properly. If it’s treated as a business proposition and proper due diligence is completed, it can be done fairly successfully. This framework is designed to facilitate the right communication to make family lending successful.
Parent-Child Framework
Background:
Proper parenting is paramount to children developing into functioning members of society. Most of the problems you see with parenting stem from a few primary sources. Outright neglect, poor communication, parental incompetence, and external circumstances usually economic in nature. The purpose of parenting is to raise a child to be responsible as soon as possible. Adulthood is simply the point at which you take full responsibility for your own choices, actions, and outcomes. This framework is intended to help the communication aspect of the problem by defining the exact agreement a parent has with their offspring.
Marriage Framework
Background:
Marriage is the ultimate form of a relationship. Most people get married without actually discussing the true nature of the vow they’re taking. This framework outlines some of the things that should be considered when getting married. Its intent is to help foster those important conversations.
Friendship Framework
Background:
Of the frameworks listed, this is the most useless one. Typically, people seem to do okay with their friendships. Or at least they don’t tend to be as messy as more intimate relationships. That said, there’s still ground to be gained by thinking through your friendships and acting strategically.
Personal Framework
Background:
One of your most important relationships if not outright your most important relationship is your relationship with your self. Just like your relationships with other people, your relationship with yourself takes time and effort. There’s a process to it and this framework is intended to help with that a bit.
